I will help you with finding what’s needed for more connection, better communication, more self awareness, more clarity, what is getting in the way and how to overcome those obstacles and live a more Relational life, with partners, family, friends and work colleagues.
Creating a cherishing culture within a relationship is key to our happiness and even when in crisis I will help you learn how to have more love and connection, something we all inheritantly need for a fulfilling relationship.
Personal coaching is an empowering experience of self discovery, identifying your strengths and areas of opportunity in order to reach your full potential. I will help you find what needs to change to help you move forward towards your dreams for the future.
Life coaching is a combination of both personal and relationship coaching, quieting the inner critic and working out what’s holding you back, to help you go forward towards your hopes and dreams for the future….. in other words – live your Best Life From Now.
If you find yourself in a broken relationship, the hurt, disappointment and resentment can feel overwhelming – Please know that there is hope!
I am a certified Relational Life practitioner, Relational Life Therapy (RLT) developed by renowned therapist Terry Real with over 30 years of family therapy experience offers a powerful pathway to healing and Reconnection.
The process begins with understanding the most important relationship we have, this is of course the one we have with ourself as Terry Real emphasises in his book ‘I don’t want to talk about it’ overcoming the secret legacy of male depression and how many of us carry wounds that profoundly impact our present day relationships.Focusing on healthy boundaries, understanding our own feelings and behaviours, recognising the disruptive patterns we fall into and how to communicate effectively in a new compassionate way.
Understanding we are profoundly influenced by a variety of factors including cultural expectations, trauma, past experiences and our individual coping mechanisms, allows us to be able to step back from them.and with new skills respond in a more thoughtful, intentional way by CHOOSING how to act rather than being REACTIVE as Terry Real emphasises in his latest book ‘US’ breaking free from YOU and ME to build a more relational life.
Another significant advantage of RLT is its emphasis on effective communication, teaching skills and giving tools to express wants and needs clearly, how to listen and respond with generosity and compassion. By learning how to communicate in this way we can begin to rebuild trust and intimacy.
RLT also offers a framework for repairing conflict and addressing resentment. In Terry Reals book “Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love,” in RLT we teach a process for having difficult conversations in a way that brings partners closer together rather than driving them further apart. By learning to approach conflict with curiosity, empathy, and a willingness to take responsibility for one’s own actions, couples can begin to heal the wounds of the past and move forward together.
Perhaps most importantly, RLT helps individuals and couples access a more collaborative, compassionate version of themselves. When a relationship is broken, it’s easy to become mired in blame, defensiveness, and a sense of victimhood. RLT challenges clients to step into their own power and take responsibility for their role in relationships. By learning to approach themselves and partners with compassion, kindness, understanding, and then a willingness to change, individuals can begin to build the kind of relationship they have always yearned for.
Of course, healing a broken relationship is never straight forward, It requires hard work and for those who are willing to embark on the journey, RLT offers a roadmap to a more fulfilling, connected partnership. As Terry Real writes in “The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work,” “The path to a truly great relationship is paved with self-awareness, personal responsibility, and a willingness to grow and change.”
As a certified Relationship/Life Coach and certified Relationship Life Therapist I work with couples and individuals helping you work out what motivates and drives you. You will learn the skills for better communication, more understanding of yourself and others, how to have less anger and resentment, how to have healthy boundaries and ultimately how to get more of what YOU would like.
I have been coaching for many years in different walks of life and am passionate about creating positive change. I combine compassion, warmness, coaching and therapy trainings and have developed my own unique and progressive approach towards the process which has resulted in permanent changes in my clients lives. I work with individuals and couples offering the support and teaching the skills needed for change and growth in a way that will work for you.
“I have struggled for a long time with low esteem and self image. Kym has guided me towards identifying and focusing on my positive attributes, this has enabled me to move forward in a more confident way, recognising and appreciating the challenges I face and can now overcome.”
“I had been struggling with the ability to feel compassion towards myself and my inner critic was wreaking havoc inside my head. I had searched for years with therapists and coaches for a way to have more compassion for myself and towards others.
Kym’s warmth and not giving up on me gave me the means to heal and for the first time in my life I can say that I can hear a sweet silence and calm inside.”
